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For me, getting married was something I always wanted. To be able to go through life having adventures with your best friend seemed like a natural progression to me. I thought I always wanted children but when the time finally came where I could seriously consider it, I found myself
not quite ready to give up the freedom of not having children haha. I guess you could say I wanted to keep being selfish with my time. Selfish may be a bad word because it can have negative connotation but that's the only word I can think of that describes how I felt. I wanted to be able to stay up as late as I want, do what I want, go where I want etc. etc. However, knowing that I did want a family someday, knowing I didn't want to be 80 years old when my children graduated high school, knowing I wanting my children to be able to know their grandparents like I was able to growing up, I decided to go against my natural instincts and dove in.
Surprisingly Hester and I got pregnant almost immediately and even though we planned it, I was still shocked. I thought we'd have to try for a while which would buy more time, I was sorely mistaken haha. Now that we finally had Juneau I can honestly say I can't believe I waited so long. She is so cute, so fun and I can't imagine my life without her now. I love her so much and seeing her smile every day and watching her grow and develop is amazing. All that cheesy stuff you hear about how it changes you, how you couldn't love anything more etc. etc., well it's pretty much true. I'm more excited than ever imagining how I'm going to have the opportunity to teach her and share in her discovery of life and all that it has to offer. I believe it's a natural progression for people in a relationship. It helps you grow as a couple, it teaches you to be more patient and compassionate with your partner/children. It also just gives you more to talk about and more experiences you can have.
So I guess to answer the question, you may not be ready to settle down and have a family right now. Maybe you have too many things you want to do before you would consider starting one. Maybe you're one of those people that marriage and children may not be for you. But, maybe once you've scratched some of those life goals off your list and you start to desire to have someone to go on adventures with, maybe, just maybe if you're like me, you'll dive in head first and start a family. It's definitely alot of work, and you have less time for yourself, but it's also one of the most rewarding things you'll ever do, IMO.
So, if those urges to start a family never come, enjoy your life, and don't worry about what other people say or think. But if you were wondering if all of us who settled down and started a family are crazy, maybe :) But I'm happy while I'm doing it so I guess that's ok :)
